Spotting Adultery

If you're aware of energy, you can tell which married people are willing to cheat. (This is the spot for a disclaimer, since cheating is such a judgmental term, and not respectful of where they are in their journey. Disclaimer: Though I honour the place a person is in their journey, I believe adultery is a red flag for issues that are best addressed.)

Our energy tells people how to treat us. It tells the Universe what to send us. Part of healing is to bring those messages into alignment with our soul purpose, which really means getting honest about what's actually going on inside. In one case, I realized a patient who'd been dealing with a traumatic divorce was ready to interact with the opposite sex because all of a sudden his energy was announcing 'I'm male, and I wanna do it.'

You're probably thinking every guy's energy says that, because we've been raised with stereotypes. Why did this person's energy go from androgynous to giving off messages about an ability and willingness to engage in sexual intimacy? Because he'd stopped thinking of himself as committed to his ex. Happily married people present a neutral sexual energy, almost androgynous, unless interacting with their spouse. Married people giving off more open messages are probably contributing to the statistics for extra-marital affairs.

It's not fair to say unhappy married people will cheat. It is fair to say a person's energy declares their attitude about their marriage, posts the rules of their personal morality, and tells the Universe what to send their way. If temptation is coming, it's because it was summoned. If you'd prefer to change what's coming your way, the first step is to discover what is in you that brings it on. Healing is a journey of self-discovery.

If temptation is coming to your spouse, the usual reaction is to assume your spouse has something to heal. That's a great way to pass the buck. Everyone has stuff to heal, and so does everyone's spouse. Since you can't heal your spouse's stuff, realize that something in you creates your situation. Realize problems in your marriage are a red flag for something you need to address, too. Change your energy message to happily married by healing yourself. That's an important step out of victim mode into empowerment.

What are you saying to the world about your relationship?